It's Ok That You're Not Ok: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand by Megan Devine

"Grief changes you.  Who you become remains to be seen.  You do not need to leave your grief behind you in order to live a newly beautiful life.  It's part of you.  Our aim is integration, not obliteration."
It has been a little over two and a half months since my husband passed away from cancer.  He had been diagnosed with cancer two and a half months before that and we had been told to prepare for the end.  I thought that I understood death.  My mother and my grandparents passed away when I was in high school and my father passed away eighteen years ago.  We knew that my husband was dying.  But, I was not prepared for this loss.  At all.  It was, and is much worse than anything I have ever experienced or could have anticipated.  I have found this book to be very helpful in dealing with my own grief and with how other people deal with me.  I think it is a wonderful book both for people who have lost someone and for other people to learn how to treat those of us who are going through the grieving process.  I got this book through an inter-library loan and requested that my library purchase their own copy so that others here may benefit from it. I may even purchase a copy for myself because I want to go back and reread parts of it.  I highly recommend this book.